S.H.A.P.E. Assessment Results

Thank you david hay for taking the SHAPE Assessment. We encourage you to meet with a Church Leader that you respect, to go over your results, so that they can help you discover a place to serve in the church and/or community, and also to help you fine-tune your 5 Main Focuses/Priorities listed at the bottom of this email under the ‘Wrapping it up’ section. May God Bless You!

[S]piritual Gifts

Here is how your spiritual gifts scored (in alphabetical order):

43%

25%

62%

46%

62%

28%

40%

59%

40%

To see descriptions on the Spiritual Gifts and how you can use them to further Christ’s Kingdom on earth, visit this link.

This gift’s evident in my life in the following ways:
I am passionate about people; love establishing rapport to build relationships

This gift’s evident in my life in the following ways:
I have many loyal and genuine friends and often show empathy to those in need

This gift’s evident in my life in the following ways:
Serving others is always much more fulfilling then yourself. I understand and truly believe in this.

[H]eart

1. My children; they are our greatest gifts and joys; my four have gone thru a lot these past years due to separation/divorce; I pledge my life to their happiness and health.

2. Serving others thru outreach is a passion of mine; I enjoy networking professionally and socially, but serving towards a common good is most important for me

3. My family: dad passed last November; am repairing relations with my mother and youngest sister; also hope to re-connect with my in-laws after divorce is finalized, as I have a close relationship with them that has been detrimentally impacted lately

I enjoy working with all ages/types, but probably children and the elderly the most.

I’m excited for the First Impressions and the Outreach ministries.

Marriage/family issues
Parenting
Divorce

[A]bilities

I was laid off from my sales position last March due to the pandemic.

I am a customer service and sales manager by trade; spent 14 years in retail banking; 3 years as a franchise owner for tutoring; business development and customer service/sales are my passion

no special skills; i do love professional networking groups and building relationships; my favorite skill is listening..

financial literacy; customer service/sales, networking professions, integrity in the workplace; hiring/interviewing processes

my children

[P]ersonality

50-50 Extrovert/Reserved

50-50 High/Low Risk

Peace Maker

50-50 Follower/Leader

50-50 Routine/Variety

Your Primary was ‘The Retriever’, with your Secondary coming in as ‘The Beaver’, and here are the descriptions of your Personalities, and how they can be used for God

Golden Retriever- Good at making friends. Very loyal. Retriever personalities do not like big changes. They look for security. Can be very sensitive. Very caring. Has deep relationships, but usually only a couple of close friends. Wants to be loved by everyone. Looks for appreciation. Works best in a limited situation with a steady work pattern.

Strength: Accommodating, calm, affirming
Weakness: Indecisive, indifferent, unable to express emotional, too soft on other people
Limitation: Seeing the need to be more assertive, holding others accountable

Beaver- Organized. Beavers think that there is a right way to do everything and they want to do it exactly that way. Beaver personalities are very creative. They desire to solve everything. Desire to take their time and do it right. Beavers do not like sudden changes. They need reassurance.

Strength: High standards, order, respect
Weakness: Unrealistic expectations of self & others, too perfect.
Limitation: Seeing the optimistic side of things, expressing flexibility

[E]xperience

Born and raised a Catholic in Saigon, Vietnam; military brat who attended Sunday school and mass every week until 14-15 years; left home after high school due to loss of identity (dad told me at 15 that he was not my biological; mother had never spoken of biological until I was 47 years old; most of my life has been living with abandonment and trust issues); married into a Muslim family 19 years ago and kind of lost my faith as we raised our 4 kids; wife left me 3 years ago and took the kids, claiming I never loved her enough (loved kids too much); I regained my Faith then and have given credit to Him for maintaining my sanity and direction.

altar boy for 3 chapels on Andrews Air Force Base in the early 80’s (3 years); active in church youth group; I also attended growth 5 classes at Cornerstone Chapel (Leesburg) 2-3 years ago, with the intent to serve on their security team and outreach groups; We had a home in Hamilton, and have since sold it. I came to PVC only because my sister lives in Haymarket; I am more drawn to Pastor Barry’s perspectives on spirituality than Pastor Gary at Cornerstone.

The births of my children are my greatest joys and experiences; once my first was born, I knew it was time to truly take responsibility of my life, and to dedicate it to others.

Getting married: I wedded my wife because she became pregnant; I did not love her, but learned to love thru her, my kids, and her family; my own parents/siblings and I were not very good at being loving/affectionate.

Leaving home right after high school; although I left through emotional duress, being on my own since then has taught me many lessons; being responsible for my care was very challenging at times, but it motivated me to correct many of my poor habits.

My best friend and I were in a bad car accident my junior summer of high school; we were both drinking, and he ultimately ran me over and dragged me under my own car; I spent much of my senior year in the hospital; lost my athletic and academic scholarships, and ended up rebelling against my family and the world; I have great compassion for those who were as naive and clueless as I was.

I have never cheated on or abused my wife, but am guilty of putting our children’s happiness before hers; when she left me 3 years ago, she has spent most of the time since trying to punish me for this; I first thought it was my duty to salvage the marriage, but I realize that she deserves someone who can place her above all; I have tried to demonstrate kindness/compassion to her, but she is still bitter and chooses other options; I am deeply saddened that we have caused so much confusion and pain to our children, and cannot comprehend how we cannot have stronger communications; this has humbled me to my core

Dad’s passing in November, ’20 after 6+ years of battling Parkinson’s Desease. We moved my parents into a dream home in Hamilton 5 years ago so that I could better care for him. The man who told me when I was 15 that he was not my biological; the strict Air Force man who admitted to resenting me because I was favored over him by my mother; this man taught me the true meaning of selflessness and sacrifice; he brought me and my mother to the States after Saigon fell in ’75, and since then sponsored over 30 of my family members here..

Wrapping It Up

The Challenge: Based upon your S.H.A.P.E. Assessment above (the way God wired you), If you knew you couldn’t fail … and ‘lack of money, or time’ was not an obstacle… list your Top 3 Things you would ‘Focus’ your Life on, next to #1 Loving God & #2 Loving Your Neighbor (these would be your ‘3 God-Sized Dreams’ for your life)?

1. My Relationship with GOD

2. My Relationship with Others

• Putting Your Spouse First
• Your Kids Second
• Everyone Else After those

3. Going on a missionary trip overseas to serve those in need.

4. Serving my community and those in need.

5. Going back to school and earning my degree.