S.H.A.P.E. Assessment Results

Thank you Michelle Marsh for taking the SHAPE Assessment. We encourage you to meet with a Church Leader that you respect, to go over your results, so that they can help you discover a place to serve in the church and/or community, and also to help you fine-tune your 5 Main Focuses/Priorities listed at the bottom of this email under the ‘Wrapping it up’ section. May God Bless You!

[S]piritual Gifts

Here is how your spiritual gifts scored (in alphabetical order):

62%

40%

34%

53%

56%

28%

28%

71%

56%

To see descriptions on the Spiritual Gifts and how you can use them to further Christ’s Kingdom on earth, visit this link.

This gift’s evident in my life in the following ways:
I have always been a background person, I don’t care if people know or see what I do. If I see something needs to be done, we get it done. I jump in to get it done. I was taught that when you borrow something, you return it better than when you received it. I feel that if I need – if something needs to be done, I’m going to do it no matter what it is.

This gift’s evident in my life in the following ways:
I’m always trying to plan something for our church or our family. I have to be organized, plan, or delegate things. (My family doesn’t always like). I tend to thrive in my own opinion when in situations (disarray). I have an ability to bring a group or project back to focus. – To its original purpose.

This gift’s evident in my life in the following ways:
I used to volunteer in a children’s hospital spending time with critically ill children. It broke my heart, but it gave me a passion for helping others who can’t help themselves. (No ability or have no one to help). Coordinator for March of Dimes. In the end letter from March Dimes Coordinator- raised more money for that office than they raised any other year. Passion of mine. I’ve always talked about working or volunteering at a non-profit helping others.

[H]eart

1. Helping others and children who aren’t able to help themselves any way I can- Going to the alley and feeding the homeless. Preaching and clothes.

2. Spending time with my family. Being in the word with them. Hiking together (I love nature and outdoors) Bible Study once a week. (Give the girls a verse in the Bible to teach the family, Walk them through evangelism)

3. Having my own quiet time. I have been doing that ever since CORE started. Doing that more than ever than in the past. Trying to hear what God is saying an being in the Word more, I find that I have more peace. I still get upset with my kids for doing things/ disobedience, etc. But not as bad as the past. I can spread the peace more at work and beyond.

Working with kids is my passion. Younger Kids, elementary/middle school age.

I’ve always wanted to do missions. I haven’t had the ability to do that. (Finances and not having the freedom to take time off work.) Want to go somewhere else.

Our church is going through a refining period. A year or so ago, a few people in the church came against Jeff and I and it took us a step back. I was ready to call it quits. Jeff pretty much was too. Jeff was taken out of a leadership role in the church because of it. It broke him and then me. The girls don’t want to go back either to that church. We prayed and continued to go and be in the background. Took a step back from being involved. Still leading the kids ministry. I could have said no, but in my heart I couldn’t do that to the kids. It took 8-12 months until we began to feel comfortable again. One of the couples who came against us apologized. I didn’t go out of my way to engage. A few weeks went by, the woman asked if I was okay. Jeff came back and asked me if I was okay, but I wasn’t willing to let them situate my table after what they did. Confronting and having a conversation with her was a load taken off of my shoulders and now Jeff is selling their home for them.

Two couples who caused the problems are still at the church and causing problems (rebellion) and we pray and try to come against it before we go to church.

They called Jeff a false prophet and said he was lying about everything he said. The head pastor (Texas) Jeff wasn’t allowed to teach anymore or be in any place of leadership.

I stayed in support of Jeff. Jeff felt like he was being called to stay there and not go anywhere else. He felt that there was something he still needed to do in that church.

One of the couples causing problems are not there, the other couple doesn’t come regularly. Leadership isn’t doing anything about it. Jeff says they talked to them about it (why one couple left)

Some days its tough and I am frustrated because I know was said and it wasn’t true (Jeff was speaking from the Bible) Through prayer, I’ve given into God and know that God has to take care of it, and I don’t have to worry myself with what happens to them.

Abortion/sanctity of Life
Marriage/family issues
Parenting

[A]bilities

Auto Nation- Title Administrator Do all the title paperwork for any vehicle that is sold.

Adjuster for insurance company, Lead teacher in pre-school (most fulfilling job I’ve had) They let me go, they wouldn’t tell me why, that frustrated me and upset me. No write ups prior to that or anything. Private pre-school year and a half, two years. Worked with infants first, moved over to lead teacher.

Volunteered at children’s hospital. Talk to and spend time with children in their rooms.

Customer Service for Ford Credit- worked all the way up to supervisor position until they closed their office here.

Active listening- depends on the situation. I will ask for clarification. Others just need someone to listen and I won’t say anything and just listen.

Patience: In working with children, situations where others would get frustrated or upset, I can remain calm and bring peace to the situation so that it can get worked out. Have been able to exercise it with some adults as well. It’s easier with children than adults because adults are set in their ways. Children are a little less stubborn and difficult.

Customer service-retail- honed my patience and listening ability- knowledge on how to diffuse angry and frustrated people.

Planning/organizing/delegating and initiating and seeing through plans when given an idea. Administrating and plan management.

Parenting class- Growing Kids God’s way/Parent on purpose. Teaching or leading parents on raising Godly children. More about what the parents activities than the children’s.

Led small groups in our home at previous church based on the message taught that week.

My Bible- My instruction on how to live my life, what I need to do and what I should be doing.

[P]ersonality

Reserved

Low Risk

Peace Maker

People Driven

Follower

Team

Routine

Your Primary was ‘The Retriever’, with your Secondary coming in as ‘The Beaver’, and here are the descriptions of your Personalities, and how they can be used for God

Golden Retriever- Good at making friends. Very loyal. Retriever personalities do not like big changes. They look for security. Can be very sensitive. Very caring. Has deep relationships, but usually only a couple of close friends. Wants to be loved by everyone. Looks for appreciation. Works best in a limited situation with a steady work pattern.

Strength: Accommodating, calm, affirming
Weakness: Indecisive, indifferent, unable to express emotional, too soft on other people
Limitation: Seeing the need to be more assertive, holding others accountable

Beaver- Organized. Beavers think that there is a right way to do everything and they want to do it exactly that way. Beaver personalities are very creative. They desire to solve everything. Desire to take their time and do it right. Beavers do not like sudden changes. They need reassurance.

Strength: High standards, order, respect
Weakness: Unrealistic expectations of self & others, too perfect.
Limitation: Seeing the optimistic side of things, expressing flexibility

[E]xperience

Born and raised in a Catholic Church, accepted Jesus on my own when I was 16, shortly after confirmed in Catholic Church. Have gotten a lot stronger in faith and in Christianity about 10 years ago. Jeff decided that he wasn’t going to a Catholic Church anymore, I decided to go to christian church with Jeff and the family.

Green Valley Christian- Youth leader in kids church on Sundays, Saturdays and Wednesdays sometimes.
Served as leader for VBS for a couple of years.
Led small groups- a year and a half.
Led parenting class for two years.

Full armor fellowship- Children’s leader for two years.

Participated first time in the parenting class. At that point, our marriage was in shambles, I was ready for divorce. It was during that class that Jeff got saved along with our marriage. 4th or 5th class, the leader told Jeff he needed to be stronger in his faith. Jeff was livid for 3 days straight. When we got home, he was determined to show this leader that he was strong n his faith. He went to a specific book in the Bible and the pages kept turning. Made him upset, so he looked at what ws on the page it kept turning back to. Peter walking on the water- ye of little faith why did you doubt. When he accepted Jesus as His Lord and His savior. Went to that leader and he didn’t recall saying it.

Employees accusing me of doing something I didn’t do. A manager I never thought would stand behind me or support me did. Showed me what kind of manager would want to be if I ever got into that position.

One of our girls (Middle Child) ended up in ICU at a week old, Someone came in and sat there with me, comforted me, sat and listened to anything I had to say. She listened to me complain and yell. First few hours, I couldn’t even be in the room with my daughter. It showed me what kind of person I wanted to be to others.

When in the Catholic Church, in Arizona visiting my parents, Kids super young, walked out to take children to the bathroom. Jeff was standing outside super livid. Priest had made a comment about me walking out in the middle of service and how wrong it was. I was devastated. Final straw with the Catholic Church. I decided then that I wouldn’t handle situations publicly, but go to the person privately. My testimony has been able to help others go through their own situations and handle it better.

When I got let go from my job at the pre-school, not getting information except someone said something- it was more devastating to me not knowing why so I could fix it and do better. I am able to understand other peoples perspectives where someone is coming from when they experience the same situations. I ended up talking to one of the people who were in the room when I was being let go, she couldn’t give me any detailed information, but she did try to explain as best as she could the reasoning behind it. Prayed with me. That’s what I had to do was pray, give it to God and pray for something better to come my way. Two months prior to that I kept feeling that I didn’t want to be a teacher anymore, I wanted to go back to where I was. I believe it was God telling me I wasn’t in the right job and I needed to take a step back I didn’t listen, I learned the hard way. I was stubborn, I thought I knew best, and to prove. to myself and to others that I could do what I was there to do. Pride 100%. Im more compassionate towards people who lose things/circumstances/opportunities etc due to pride/stubbornness or those who don’t have any closure in the ending of things.

The lady at work went and complained against our department. (It had been made clear by her it was me and another person.) we are too loud in our office and the whole dealership has to be quiet and really can’t talk. It’s okay for her and not for anyone else. Jeff and I prayed and gave it to God. I have made it a point to pray as I am going into work. I wouldn’t speak to her previously, but I no longer go to her supervisor. I go to her. I don’t go around her anymore. I do my best to not show her any negativity. In this last week, God is changing some things in the circumstances and in her. She speaks to me more and responds when I say good morning. She has approached me to offer help, etc. Being able to recognize or understand someone on the other end may be going through a difficult time you have no clue about.They may need a little more time, understanding, etc. because they are going through something you don’t know about. Prayer and grace is how to deal with difficult people. We have to operate in both. We have to walk in humility and forgiveness.

Wrapping It Up

The Challenge: Based upon your S.H.A.P.E. Assessment above (the way God wired you), If you knew you couldn’t fail … and ‘lack of money, or time’ was not an obstacle… list your Top 3 Things you would ‘Focus’ your Life on, next to #1 Loving God & #2 Loving Your Neighbor (these would be your ‘3 God-Sized Dreams’ for your life)?

1. My Relationship with GOD

2. My Relationship with Others

• Putting Your Spouse First
• Your Kids Second
• Everyone Else After those

3. Missionary trip- Ireland and in general.

4. Volunteering regularly at a non-profit organization that helps children or abused women.

5. Travel to Poland (Part of my heritage) Would love to go and explore the country and have my family be a part of that and learn what their heritage is.