S.H.A.P.E. Assessment Results

Thank you Shannon Flamer for taking the SHAPE Assessment. We encourage you to meet with a Church Leader that you respect, to go over your results, so that they can help you discover a place to serve in the church and/or community, and also to help you fine-tune your 5 Main Focuses/Priorities listed at the bottom of this email under the ‘Wrapping it up’ section. May God Bless You!

[S]piritual Gifts

Here is how your spiritual gifts scored (in alphabetical order):

31%

56%

62%

75%

65%

31%

43%

68%

71%

To see descriptions on the Spiritual Gifts and how you can use them to further Christ’s Kingdom on earth, visit this link.

This gift’s evident in my life in the following ways:
I’m happy giving tithes to ministry and to people in need. I’m happy giving my time and talents to others. I make more cakes for free than I do for profit. I love giving meaningful gifts to others, especially ones that require creativity, time and effort. I love being a part of bringing joy to others.

This gift’s evident in my life in the following ways:
I believe this is God’s vision more than it is my natural inclination. I do love working with children and helping them learn and understand the gospel. Although I feel unqualified and scared to lead anyone else, I believe God has a plan to use me in leading small groups and using my story in this setting or others to help others in their walk. Perhaps this all falls under the “teaching” umbrella somehow.

This gift’s evident in my life in the following ways:
I’m not a natural leader, but I do naturally find satisfaction being of help to others, officially or unofficially. In an official church capacity, I’ve only served in kid’s ministry for about a year, then as a co-facilitator of Financial Peace University (which I felt was more to be a help to my husband), now in the kid’s ministry for about a month. I also previously served at a food pantry for a while, before becoming a mom, and love volunteering at my son’s school whenever I can. I bake cares for an organization that serves children with illnesses and their families. Unofficially, I like just getting in where I fit in and filling needs, serving food, cleaning, making sure children are taking care of, etc.

[H]eart

1. Relationship with God

2. Kids

3. Family

Kids, young adult girls, women with negative histories with men

Kid’s ministry, Christian growth, women’s ministry, family ministry, poverty/hunger/homelessness

Marriage/family issues
At-risk children
Other – women’s issues

[A]bilities

Paralegal

legal secretary, call center/telemarketing, hotel front desk, food service

cake decorating, crafty, resourceful/DIY, typing/grammar/proofreading, hard worker, ability to be candid/open about my struggles

Co-facilitate Financial Peace University. Finances aren’t something I love to talk about, but I do love the human aspects – sharing my story and getting to relate to others through their stories.

Compassion – I have a heart for people and their struggles.

[P]ersonality

Reserved

50-50 High/Low Risk

Peace Maker

50-50 People/Project Driven

Follower

Routine

Your Primary was ‘The Retriever’, with your Secondary coming in as ‘The Beaver’, and here are the descriptions of your Personalities, and how they can be used for God

Golden Retriever- Good at making friends. Very loyal. Retriever personalities do not like big changes. They look for security. Can be very sensitive. Very caring. Has deep relationships, but usually only a couple of close friends. Wants to be loved by everyone. Looks for appreciation. Works best in a limited situation with a steady work pattern.

Strength: Accommodating, calm, affirming
Weakness: Indecisive, indifferent, unable to express emotional, too soft on other people
Limitation: Seeing the need to be more assertive, holding others accountable

Beaver- Organized. Beavers think that there is a right way to do everything and they want to do it exactly that way. Beaver personalities are very creative. They desire to solve everything. Desire to take their time and do it right. Beavers do not like sudden changes. They need reassurance.

Strength: High standards, order, respect
Weakness: Unrealistic expectations of self & others, too perfect.
Limitation: Seeing the optimistic side of things, expressing flexibility

[E]xperience

Dedicated my life to Christ at 10 for others, rededicated my life at 25 for a man (mostly), rededicated my life at 28 for me, purposefully. Sinful/hypocritical behavior that I was hiding was exposed, and after I couldn’t pretend to be someone I wasn’t anymore, it was as if I was finally free to pursue God to change me for real.

Expanding Visions Ministries – Financial Peace U – 22 months; kids ministry, 1 month

Vineyard Columbus, kid’s ministry, 15 months

Unofficial service – Church of God of Jeffersonville, OH (home church) mostly with food and cleaning

As a child going through tough family times, I was living with my grandmother and an elderly white couple within a racist predominately white community took an interest in me (and other kids – mostly white) and my relationship with God. They picked me up each week for attendance at Awana at a local church. They would host us at their house on the weekends for Awana study, and really invested their time. They were my first example of what service to strangers looked like. If it had not been for them, I wouldn’t have accepted Christ as a child.

Unofficially mentored by a woman I met in my church’s small group (this group was also very impactful) who walked alongside me during many difficult times in my life (mom’s cancer journey, mom’s death, separation then divorce) – she prayed with me, told me about her story & how God showed up for her, she was an incredible encouragement that made those seasons a bit easier

When I first began to feel a relationship with God. The first several years of my walk with God as an adult, I didn’t know what to do. I wanted to know, but there was no direction or no one to help me, so I bought a “new believer” workbook and completed that, I would try studies that didn’t really help. Looking back, I was too focused on the “doing” and didn’t understand the relationship part. When I was 28 and I rededicated my life to Christ, I finally started to understand the relationship part, it felt like a new revelation. The more I studied the word, meditated on it, the more I prayed (which wasn’t the most comfortable) the more connected I felt to God and felt like He was speaking to me through His word. It was an incredible experience that I almost couldn’t believe was happening to me.

Family dysfunction – Grew up in a secular home, dad suffered from depression & later drug addiction, eventually committing suicide. Mom was single mom after (my age) age 9, tried her best to raise us in a low-income home to not feel low income, to show us love, to teach us independence, and she succeeded there. But she later developed alcoholism, and although she became a Christian when I was 18, I never saw a godly example from her growing up, only after adulthood.

Losing my dad at 13 (after being a daddy’s girl all my life) left me with “daddy issues” so I developed unhealthy habits in relation to men. I saw men as THE source of love and protection and sought it in the most unhealthy ways.

Divorce/Co-parenting – entered into a very unhealthy relationship, turned marriage that was very toxic from beginning to end. Divorced after years of bad practices on both our parts & lots of infidelity on his. Found redemption and second chance at marriage through God himself, but co-parenting on both ends (as a bio mom & step mom) is HARD. Additionally, being married in a blended family is HARD.

Wrapping It Up

The Challenge: Based upon your S.H.A.P.E. Assessment above (the way God wired you), If you knew you couldn’t fail … and ‘lack of money, or time’ was not an obstacle… list your Top 3 Things you would ‘Focus’ your Life on, next to #1 Loving God & #2 Loving Your Neighbor (these would be your ‘3 God-Sized Dreams’ for your life)?

1. My Relationship with GOD

2. My Relationship with Others

• Putting Your Spouse First
• Your Kids Second
• Everyone Else After those

3. Walk with young ladies/women who have/are at risk for hard relationships with men

4. Work with kids in knowing the gospel and knowing Christ in a personal way

5. Work with married couples/blended families with my husband – later when we’re more mature in our journey